wise decisions on a first date with a straight woman
When you ask her out on a date and she says yes,
be careful to not convince yourself it’s actually a date.
There are rules to this game.
Plan a time to meet, plan a time to leave.
Meet her somewhere you can see her clearly.
The darkness might confuse her
and she could mistake you for something/someone else.
Order something nice for yourself.
Be confident in your choosing.
Tell her why you like it.
Pay close attention to what she orders,
the way she sits,
the way she touches drink
and if she faces you or not.
Be kind, but don’t be too kind.
It would be so easy to scare her away.
Take your time with your drink.
Let her know you want to know her.
Don’t be afraid of small pauses.
Laugh when she says something funny,
but not so loud that other people can hear,
she’s not used to this.
You’ll make her uncomfortable.
Listen to her voice.
Listen for the happy she carries
and if she smiles when she speaks.
Order another drink,
ask her if you can buy the second one.
If she says no, do not insist too much.
If she gets up to go to the bathroom,
see if her leg brushes against yours,
or if she places her hand on your shoulder.
Try not to focus too much on what she is thinking,
have faith that she will tell you when you ask her.
When she returns,
pay close attention to how her posture changes
and if she pulls her chair closer,
if she’s changed her hair,
if she looks at you with curious eyes.
When you glance back,
it’s okay to bite your lip.
You’re letting her know
that you feel the bashful build up in your cheeks
and in your stomach.
Tell her what you are proud of.
Explain why you are someone she should want see again.
Don’t immediately invite her out.
Wait to see if she asks first.
Ask her about her passions.
Get her to talk about something she loves.
Respond openly, but understandingly.
Prepare yourself to leave.
Tell her you have things to do in the morning,
whether you do or not.
Do not play too easy.
Notice whether she is disappointed or not.
If she asks you to stay for another drink,
debate as though it is a hard decision,
even though you know it isn’t.
You’ll want to stay,
you could stay there all night.
You could curl up next to the stories she’s told you
and the hold the vulnerable in your arms.
Thank her for the evening.
Tell her you enjoyed her company.
Make plans to meet again.
When leaving each other,
give her a sincere hug,
then place your hands on her shoulders.
Tell her to have a wonderful night.
If she kisses you,
do not let it hold too long.
kiss her gently
place your hand to her cheek
and slowly pull away.
If she doesn’t kiss you,
do not push her.
Lightly peck her cheek,
and touch her hand before saying goodbye.
Walk away slowly,
turn around to give a friendly wave.
Stand up straight.
Run your fingers through your hair.
Wait for the phone call.
Wait for the message.
If it does not come, let her go.
Never push a straight woman to love you.
Do not expect anything.
Let her go.
- * - a poem by Jill Greenseth - * -
an all too familiar experience in this little life of mine.
EDIT: Holy crap. Is it even POSSIBLE for me to write a short poem anymore? Darn.